Living With Sexual Dysfunction
by Andrea Watson
Have you ever washed your hands, sat down at the dinner table, looked at your partner, and said, “Pass the penis, please!” No? Well, perhaps you should. “Spicing it up” may be all you need to deal with sexual distress during periods of stagnation. But if you’ve already pounced like a wildcat and ravaged your partner right there at the dinner table and you are still having trouble getting off, then maybe you are looking at some kind of sexual dysfunction.
Everybody needs the release of orgasm. It gets those endorphins, that blood, and extra oxygen flowing in the brain. It also reduces stress, lowers your risk for hypertension, fights insomnia, reduces pain, and helps you to lose weight.
What is Sexual Dysfunction?
When we hear the term, “sexual dysfunction”, we often picture a defeated man sitting on the side of the bed, head in his hands, while a woman pats him on the shoulder in forgiveness. Am I wrong? But what we all need to realize is that sexual dysfunction affects women, too. In fact, it is nondiscriminatory, going after anyone with genitalia and a brain. And it sucks. The big one. Not in a good way, either.
Medically, sexual dysfunction is described as consistent and recurring problems with desire, response, orgasm, or pain that cause distress. In women, it can occur at any stage of life, or it can persist throughout a life span (damn, right?). And it’s not just low-T that causes erectile dysfunction in men, as one may think. It is a complex problem, involving hormones, muscles, emotions, mental health, and other factors.
How Can We Deal?
Whatever the cause, there’s no denying that sexual dysfunction can present barriers to the person who has it, and can cause strain in the relationship(s) they are in. So it’s no surprise that S.D. is a cash cow for Big Pharma (we know sex sells, just look at the title of this article).
While it is true that medications can help treat the symptoms of S.D., there is often an underlying problem that needs to be addressed in some sort of therapeutic setting. Mental health problems such as anxiety, depression, schizophrenia, eating disorders, and personality disorders all can cause S.D., and they do-at high rates.
When there is no pathological reason for sexual dysfunction to exist in a person, it becomes a psycho-sexual problem. These arise from environmental, psychological, and other factors. As with most psychological disorders, a combination of medication and therapy is usually the best way to to treat the problem.
Occasional inability to become aroused or orgasm is okay. It happens to everybody when we are tired, stressed, or just not in the mood. But if the problem persists and causes you distress, seek help. Please. Everyone benefits from a happier you!